The following are the top reasons women dump their men:-
1. We outgrew each other I just didn't feel it anymore
2. He cheated
3. He didn't have much money
4. he is dishonest
5. he did not want to commit.
1. he was selfish in bed...he does not wait for her to climax
2. he became a cheapskate... he does not spend money on her.
3. He cheated on her 4. he compares her negatively to his mother
5. he picks fights...over trivial things
Don't Get Dumped
She said, "It's not you, it's me." Here's the truth--and why this will never happen to you again
It's the one-sided rejection and door-slam finality that bites. Things seem to be going swimmingly until she hits you with "Look, I like your hustle, but I just don't feel it anymore." Which, processed by the male brain, registers as "Get lost, loser." And you're left standing alone in the rain. The worst part? Most of the time, you don't even know why. You just know it hurts.
We surveyed more than 5,000 women in a MensHealth.com and Glamour magazine Web poll to find out why women dump men and what's going on in those vicious heads when they do. For starters, ignore her "It's not you, it's me" cliche
"Actually, it's you," said 40 percent. Only 4.8 percent said, "It's me." The rest said, "It's a little of both."
"Women don't enjoy ending their relationships," says Logan Levkoff, a Ph.D. candidate and New York City?based sexologist. "It's not a decision they make lightly." So why do they? Here's the rundown (continued below...)
Watch Your Step
If you're always fighting with each other and the thrill is gone, be happy she beat you to the trigger. And if you're cheating, you deserve it, man. You can assume that's automatic grounds for dumping. Heck, 18 percent of women said they'd pull the plug even if you just kissed another woman, and 9 percent put chronic flirting on the must-dump-him list. So focus your charm on her, not the one over there.
"Cheating usually results in a dump by default, because you're never given the chance to have 'The Talk,'" says Kristina Grish, 28, author of We Need to Talk. But First, Do You Like My Shoes? Dress Codes for Dumping Your Man.
Other than that, if you don't want to get dumped, there are ways you can avoid it.
What's Your Father Potential?
61% said a man's potential as a husband and father was "extremely important." And 33 percent thought it was at least somewhat important. "I broke it off with a man I was head over heels in love with because he just couldn't seem to get his life in order," says Nicole Beland, 30, the Men's Health Girl Next Door. "Everything about him screamed bachelor: the dirty futon that served as his couch, the extremely low balance in his bank account, the fact that he was still going out 5 nights a week. He didn't do the things a man would have to do to show he could be a good husband: calling me to make sure I got home safely when I was driving late at night, including me in his future plans, pampering me a little when I was feeling sick. Things like that. And he was 32."
Tip:Don't let it freak you out. "A lot of the qualities that create attraction in women are the same things that would make a man a good father: affection, trust, and communication skills," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist and the author of She Comes First. "When guys think women are evaluating them as husbands and fathers, they're missing the point. It's really about quality of character."
Are You in for the Long Haul?
76% of women have considered dumping a guy in the first 4 months. Women know very quickly. "I've never gone on a third date with a guy I didn't end up staying with for 2 years or more," says Beland. Then they give it a few months before reevaluating. "At the 4-month mark in every new relationship, I start to think about whether I want to continue dating a guy or break up with him," says Grish. "They're unconscious inclinations, but by then we've spent enough time together that I can't help but listen for the L-word or look for signs that indicate whether he's with me to have fun or because he actually sees a potential future together."
Around 4 to 6 months is a common transition point. "The early stages of a relationship are very exciting--all your sex chemicals are really firing in the brain," says Kerner. "After that, it becomes more about security and well-being. Some people have a hard time transitioning from the falling-in-love phase to the attachment phase."
Tip: If you're attached and committed, make sure she knows it. If you love her, tell her--and show her. Talk about the future with her in it. Give her a reason to stay, and she will.
How Smooth are Your Moves?
40% said a man had talked them out of dumping him. There's always hope, even on D day. "I was mid-dump with a man," says Anne, 24. "I told him I couldn't have a relationship with someone who was so closed off. He didn't say anything. After a few minutes, he started crying and explained that this was a problem he had with women. He said he wanted to try harder to communicate with me. His honesty and openness gave me hope, so I decided to stick around."
Tip:Magic words that convince a woman to stay:
"I love you" or "I'll change." Sounds too easy, but hey, that's what the survey said. But don't say them if you don't mean them. "Truly take into consideration what she's saying and think about whether you can change these things," says Levkoff. "Sometimes you can; sometimes you can't. But don't sacrifice your own identity or you'll wind up unhappy."
Research indicates that women want sex with men who are:
cocky, arrogant
always puts himself first
is inattentive to a woman's needs
does what he wants when he wants to do it, regardless of what anyone else thinks
acts like a loose cannon
struts his masculine sexuality
isn't even remotely a "nice" guy
treats women badly
uses women for sex
But they really want a guy who has a lot of money for a lifetime partner.
What women think of good guys.
Nice sweet guys are ugly! They haven't the air of sensuality about them that the bad guys do, because they just haven't had lives.
Nice sweet guys think women are a 'special species' from another planet.
Nice sweet guys suffocate their girlfriends, expecting them to be their lovers, mother, sister, princess, china doll, and the Goddess who brings up the sun in their mornings. They also expect their girlfriends to be their best buddy, because 'real' guys won't have anything to do with these geeks!
Nice sweet guys sit there entranced by their girlfriends as the girlfriend carries on the whole conversation by themselves. Nice guys haven't lived so they have nothing to add to the conversation. Nice guys bore women to death.
Nice sweet guys stare at their girlfriends in total worship awe. Women find it difficult to eat when they are being visually consumed by a staring, mindless dope.
Nice guys quickly look at you when they do a social blunder (such as fart) to see if you caught it. Who cares!
Nice guys pretend to be 'just our friend' and then go home and fantasize about us mothering their 'nice guy' kids.
Nice guys have no real life or interest of their own. They sit around and dream of getting a girlfriend to fill their empty lives.
Nice guys feel so undeserving of 'awesome you' that they make you feel that you have, most assuredly, picked a real loser.
Nice guys think women are porcelain goddesses. Women don't want to have to keep living up to a surreal image. If you belch in front of us we won't break!
Nice guys think that if a woman doesn't want to have anything to do with their boring, empty shell of manlihood, they're stupid bitches who would rather be with a jerk that beats them. Yep, this is every woman's dream.
Nice guys are too STUPID to figure out that woman don't want to be the leader on the dance floor.
Nice guys wear tucked in golf shirts and make a clean, straight part in their hair, exactly two-inches above their left ear. This really turns woman on. So sexy! Why can't Fabio and Brad Pitt take fashion and grooming lessons from nice guys?
Nice guys sit there like passive puppies, waiting for their girl to make all the moves. This is because woman love to feel undesirable.
Nice guys can fool our parents. They are often quoted by the respected elder as being kind, loving, committed. Translation: Gay
Nice guys suck because you can't complain about them to your friends.
Dating a nice guy is like dating yourself. If you like Broccoli, he likes Broccoli. If you hate Jay Leno, he hates Jay Leno. If you order a Shirley Temple, he orders a Shirley Temple. If you are pro capital punishment, he is pro capital punishment. If you think Austin Powers was disgusting he thinks Austin Powers was disgusting. If you prefer Kotex over Tampax...
Nice guys eventually turn into jerks too, so why not just date a jerk right from the start and skip all that insecurity stage?
Nice guys laugh at your jokes...before you've even reached the punchline.
Nice guys quickly get emotionally attached. Sucking the life of you.
Nice guys eagerly show affection. Who can appreciate that of which they didn't have to work for?
Nice guys are gentle, tender, pedal-soft lovers. Woman love this...hopefully her nice guy will wake her up to let her know that he is coming. "I'm not hurting you now, am I hon.?"
Nice guys will never, ever eagerly lust and devour your hot, throbbing body or steamy, sweetened inner core. Nice guys can't hear your body screaming, "hold me, touch me, RAVISH me! FUCK ME NOW!!!"
Hopefully, your nice guy will eventually turn into a jerk and cheat on you (so someone else can endure his lack of lovemaking skills).
Nice guys will make you feel guilty if you spend a minute anywhere but with them.
Nice guys will buy you flowers. Then ask you all evening long if you liked them.
Nice guys will never actually tell their girlfriends when they don't like what she's doing. Instead, he will get mad about it six months later.
Nice guys are hideously insecure. Nice guys never do for you anything for the simple sake of giving. Everything they do for their girlfriends are like stock investments. The stock is up at Acceptance and Approval. Each gift he gives you, or loving gesture he shows you, is really a guaranteed down payment toward a future of him clinging to you like a drowning man to a life-saver.
Nice guys are confused about romance. They either go overboard and bring a dozen roses to a "lets go for a walk in the park" date...or...they are so unsuave and unsure of themselves that they hang around you, pretending to be your friend. Yep, I just love an unconfident, self-doubting man.
Nice guys are so desperate to please that they have no identity of their own. Ask a nice guy his thoughts on anything. Guess what? He doesn't have any!
Nice guys are easily used. I just love a man I have no respect for.
Nice guys suffer from the "Night in Shining Armor" syndrome. They pick out the sleaziest, "hard luck" cases to rescue. Moral of the story? Wear condoms while sleeping thru the sex act with your nice guy.
Nice guys are so eager to please that they rarely speak up when something bothers them. Thus, they can make their girlfriends feel guilty when they say, "Everything I did, I did for you".
Nice guys truly think that they are making their girlfriends happy by sacrificing their own life, desires, wants, needs, opinions, and identities to that of their girlfriends. They can then claim that "no one will ever love you as much as I do". Translation: "You are such a bitch, be grateful I'm willing to put up with you and love you anyway."
Nice guys make you their Life, their only source of happiness. Woman love this burden placed on them.
Nice Guys really don't like themselves. Insecurity is not sexy, it is suffocating, clinging and obsessive. Issues with nice men are unbearable. Issues with jerks are workable.
Nice Guys are terrified of rejection. Bad boys don't care!
We will take a jerk any day of the week. We pray that nice guys drop dead.
Isn't that special?
Men will be nice when women are attracted to nice guys?
